YOU THINK YOU KNOW SOMEBODY

So, what do you do when all you know suddenly changes? I mean, is it hard to believe that someone can be a certain way for 10 years, and then change? Can gay people actually go back the same way they came in? OK, bare with me. I know that, for me, there was a point in time when I thought I was straight. We all know the story, right? I came out of the closet very young, but I know people who have spent most of their lives in the closet, while finding their true selves, or finding comfort, or finding acceptance. So if we spend some of our lives being “straight,” is it wrong for people to spend some of their lives being “gay”?

Our society loves to label, and I guess what I’m trying to understand is the lifestyle of a bisexual. I know there are many different levels within this category and many ways to view them. I’m thinking about the lesbian that goes back to dating men. It’s a reoccurring happening in my world, among ex-girlfriends, but this time the topic was brought to my attention, not from an ex, but from a friend. Is it wrong for a girl who once identified as a lesbian to date a man? Is she judged strongly because she also developed feelings for a girl during the same time period? Is it dating? Is it sex? Is it acceptable?