A world unknown to many, the Gay community has “come out” immensely within the past few years. From Prop 8 to legit marriages in our nation’s capital, the beautiful Washington, D.C. our community has been put through the ringer and came out on TOP. I think that now more than ever, we should not only self identify but show the everyday person passing in the streets exactly who we are. I believe that every person, gay, straight, bi-sexual, transgender, black, white or freaking purple is beautiful in some way inside and out. That may sound ridiculous or cliché to you, and that’s fine, but it’s actually how I really feel.

Ahh, the one night stand, (it even sounds refreshing) how I used to love thee. Well, maybe not love them but it was definitely fun for a while. I think I was more of the person who enjoyed the challenge of it all rather than the actual act of fornication. I was never one to often partake in the willing participant who indulged in and engulfed my young ego.  Are they safe? Does it happen often? Who gets it all started? All of these questions lead to outcomes that are completely up to you.

 See, it’s a game. Everything in life is a game and it just depends on how you play it and how lucky you are. I believe that a sexy single can walk into almost any bar and take home whoever he or she may want… if the cards are played right.

Here is where I come in but I’m not here to play anymore; I’m dealing the cards. Now, let the game begin! Here is how to have lady luck on your side along with a little Linz the Lez to seal the deal.

As some may have noticed, it’s been too long since I’ve last logged in. However, we’ve got a lot more going on here at LinztheLez.com which is a  lot more going on in my world. 

So here are a few updates:

Girl Party is a new ALL GIRL GET TOGETHER happening the first Saturday of every month! Stay on site for details.

The L² Designs and Identi-Tees has been very well received! Look for Summer Sale coming soon!!!!

Lez Liquor Hour(LLH) is still going strong as Victoria(creator of LLH )  continues to gather a great crowd!

Interested in buying advertising space on the new LinztheLez.com? Contact me for amazing deals!

I got a dog! Her name is Sandy and she is a 3 year old coc-a-poo (how appropriate, I know).  Hope you meet her soon.

Today, we are all fortunate that we can be safe and comfortable enough to be whoever we want.

Sterotypes are there, they always will be and we all use them. Be honest. Some of them are good when some are

just awful. However these sterotypes can also be used to describe the person we are. So who cares what people

think, I believe that you should be who you are, period.

Have you found yourself wondering what goes on in the lesbian world? How about if you’ve done something scandalous and wondered if anyone else did the same? What if you had a story to tell but nobody to listen? Well, these are all reason why I’ve decided to lend an ear then pass it all onto the world.

So, without further ado some MORE lesbian confessions just for you:

Ever shared a shower with your girlfriend? Well, if you are like me, one thing ALWAYS leads to another so I recommend not shower together at Sandcastle (Pittsburgh Water Park). Yup, you guessed it. My girlfriend and I ended up getting it on in a sexy, steamy public shower with nothing but a curtain separating us from a mother rinsing her kids off two stalls down. Whoops! – ANONYMOUS, Pittsburgh, PA

Recently I’ve been astonished with how unhappy people allow themselves to get. I don’t know, it just seems that when faced with challenges its easier for some to crumble than to exceed. Boo I hate my life, I’m always bored, I still live with my parents and I’m 32 years old, my job is awful, my friends aren’t there for me boo hoo… lame. Come on people, get up and go already!

I’ve been very busy lately for a number of reasons. Maybe because I started to get bored or I didn’t want to have to move back home or I found other outlets for a job, etc. With my schedule filling up and my days getting longer I’m finding it hard to wrap my head around the concept of rolling over? I mean, does it have to do with how we were raised or what addictions could have developed over time? Is it because we were given everything or nothing at all? Possibly because our parents divorced or maybe because they didn’t? Does our upbringing leave a person to just dismiss life or embrace it?

Oh the holidays… they’re over. Now everyone can go back to being complete jag offs (yeah I said jag off, kind of yinzer of me but it seems to be the best adjective at the moment), start being impatient and rude, honking the horn and giving the bird… good thing the Steelers don’t suck this year or this city might fall a couple rankings on the “Most Liveable City” list. There is A LOT of sarcasm here if you didn’t pick up on it yet. I always feel the need to point that out because we don’t know each other that well yet and that last thing I want is people contacting me saying, “But Linz, the Steelers DO suck this year”.

Anyway, this holiday season proposed a new situation in my life and I would like to share it with you. For the first time, in ten years, I stayed in Pittsburgh instead of traveling home. It took some time to come to the decision to just stay put over the holiday and do what I want to do. I mean, that is what my mother told me in a stern, irritated voice over the phone when I merely suggested alternative holiday locations. “Do whatever you want to do, Lindsay. Just do whatever you want to do!” Hmm, ok. Maybe, just maybe, I actually will.

Without totally boring you with the details of the little incident that was neither the maker or the breaker as to why I didn’t travel, I’ll get to my point. The point is this, when is it time to break the mold?

Ok, so I had a little incident that occurred over the holiday that I would like to talk about. There was this boy… JUST KIDDING! I was going to make this story really elaborate but thought I may lose some readers along the way, and lets face it, I can’t afford that! I actually would like to dig into the whole Adam Lambert AMA performance attention without boring you.

So what? NOW our society doesn’t want to see a fierce young man simulate a blow job on prime time national television? What’s wrong with you people? I know the media covered a lot of this story so I’m going to hop on the bandwagon and drag it out a bit more. The full frontal grind-a-thon was a little much Mr. Lambert but the kiss was, um, appropriate? I say it that way because of the beautiful flash back image I have burned into my mind of the Britney/Madonna kiss from the VMA’s many moons ago that paved the way for same sex kiss Adam displayed a few weeks ago. Is it a little harder to see two guys than two girls? Yes. Because girls are hot and guys are not! Well, at least that’s how our society seems to think.

As I ‘m sure we all know there are a number of differences between gay and straight romantic relationships, especially when it comes to male side of things. I think it all starts somewhere and that somewhere raises a lot of questions in my mind. Why is there such a gap in how gay relationships start compared to straight relationships? I never took the time to really analyze this until it was brought to my attention a few weeks ago. Picture the straight bar scene, say in South Side on a Friday night. The masses huddled together, chugging any $2 draft special where some have celebrated happy hour to an embarrassing extent while others are just starting the evening…

Now, I may be all over the place when talking about this so bare with me. It seems that everyone is on the same page and out to have a good time, get lucky and end the evening with a bang! But it just seems so damn difficult! The more one drinks the easier it may get to approach a potential “nightly conquest”, but the stupider one looks. The glazed eyes, the swagger/stumble and the stench of day old dirty tap beer that bellows off the skin is a definite trend in this crowd.

It seems extremely difficult for a guy to enter a conversation with a girl, grasp her attention (longer than the time it takes to buy her a drink), find something in common, have an intellectual conversation wrapped with excitement and light hearted jokes all while anticipating the hopeful idea of taking her home. Seems like a lot of work and sometimes multiple $2 trips to the bar to get a girl to go home with you.

EXCUSE ME? HOW MANY BAGS ARE YOU CHECKING?

So what do you do when your new love has a lingering past? I mean, if you live in the world that I do, this is not uncommon at all. With such a small community, we are bound to have had relations with someone who was an ex-girlfriend, who also slept with an old roommate, who is now best friends with a girl on your softball team, who you hooked up with after a winning celebration at your local bar — or something along those lines.

Just the other night, I sat at my best friend’s new girlfriend’s house with my lovely lady beside me. With the new girlfriend fresh in the group, we started discussing people we know. In all of the talk, I discovered that my ex-girlfriend is supposedly dating someone who, ironically, showed interest in me when I first started dating said ex. It seemed everyone who was sitting there was linked some way or another. Sound familiar? Probably for most of my readers.

It’s kind of fun and exciting for a moment, but what about when the connection is too close? What about when the past of a new girl … is haunting? When exes rear their ugly heads, or when the “we are still friends” just isn’t flying anymore? When do you let the baggage go? Or when do you just kick her ass?